Disagreeing vs. Disliking

It occurred to me today that people often cannot separate disagreeing with someone from disliking someone. There are plenty of people with whom I disagree, but still find likeable. I imagine there are also plenty of people with whom I would agree about many subjects, but I would still find dislikable. Sure, it's easier to like someone that you never disagree with, but I think that's a bit unrealistic. I can't imagine there would be two people on this planet who would ever agree 100% about every possible thing. Of course, it might also be a bit boring to always agree with each other. Anyway, the point is that just because you disagree with someone doesn't mean you don't or can't like them. Heck, you could even get into an argument with someone and still like them. Having a disagreement with someone about something doesn't have to be a huge deal, though it seems to often become blown out of proportion.

Anyway, it seems as though most of the time, people decide they don't like someone if they don't agree on big things. Depending upon the issue, you may find it impossible to like or be around someone with whom you disagree, but that clearly isn't the case for everybody or every issue. Certainly Maria Shriver and Arnold Schwarzenegger have opposing political viewpoints, but seem to be managing being married quite successfully. I don't feel the need to have a pet, but I don't automatically dislike pet people. Certainly I might have more in common with people with whom I share common beliefs (thus having a lower rate of disagreement about various issues), but that doesn't mean that I'll automatically like or dislike them. People I agree with can still be asshats and jerks. People I don't agree with can still be really nice and fun to be around. I can't think of a single person on this planet with whom I agree 100% of the time.

Toilet Paper
No, I have not run out. I just watched a factory tour show on National Geographic television and saw how it is made. It never occurred to me that the TP would be wound onto the cores and cut apart into individual rolls after winding. This particular company makes their TP and cores out of 100% post consumer paper. It was cool watching the bales of paper get turned into pulp.

Now we're making chocolate (5,000 pounds per batch) at the Guittard chocolate factory, soon to be followed by batteries at the Rayovac factory.

I'll take my waking up almost two hours late as a sign that I needed more sleep this morning. As you might imagine, I still haven't gotten to the gym this week. I'll work on that tomorrow. According to the couch-to-5K plan I found on the internet, I ought to be running 3 minutes and walking for 2 minutes for 30 minutes or so. In theory, I ought to be able to run a 5K race in 30 min at the end of this training program. I'm skeptical about being able to run that fast, but I'll keep an open mind about it. :-)

Crazy Relatives

I have a crazy uncle--Uncle Ramon. He's my grandmother's brother, so technically is a great uncle. Anyway, he's the practical joker of the family. If asked to pour you a glass of milk, he would ask you to say when. And he'd keep pouring until you said "when". Once when asked to say the blessing at a family meal, he said "Bless the food and damn the skin. Lay back your ears and let's dig in." When my sister and I were little, he gave us a set of walkie talkies and then proceeded to talk to use on his CB radio until he got out of range as he drove home. He also made me a wooden scooter and a set of wooden toy cars.

Uncle Ramon recently moved from his house into a nursing home, so my grandmother and mom were working on clearing out his house. Among the fun things found were these glasses. They are sunglasses with battery-powered wipers and lights. Clearly, Uncle Ramon either purchased or "borrowed" them from Elton John. My nephew thinks they're fun.


Stefaneener said…
I think we don't practice civil disagreement enough -- look how it's not modeled in our political sphere any more.

My crazy relatives were all horrible and nasty, so you're way ahead. Nice glasses.
Ruby Louise said…
Civil disagreement. I like it!

The other "problem" is that people seem to be unable to just discuss/debate the subject at hand, rather than turning it into personal attacks. It is absolutely possible to criticize an action or result without criticizing the person.

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